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Smartphones

I have a 15-year-old son who just got a smartphone. I want to make sure that he can’t access inappropriate sites, but the parental restrictions on this Galaxy phone are pretty much non-existent. Also, Verizon offers little help. Is there an app that will monitor and log what he’s on online? Is there something to download that will do a solid job of restricting what he looks at? Thanks for the help.

Check out all the features of X3watch.   As a parent who still has control of what comes into the child’s sphere of influence you are wise to guard his smart phone and teach him the reasons why- modeling that example yourself as well so that he will care for himself the same way once he leaves home.   Accountability shouldn’t stop once we turn 18 

husband’s porn use

About six weeks ago I discovered that my husband has been viewing porn. I’d walk into the room and he’d close his laptop quickly. He’d nap in the evenings and then stay up late at night on his computer. These things made me suspicious until I finally checked his internet history to see what was so interesting to him. I found all kinds of filth and it dated back as far as the computer recorded. I asked to talk with him. I told him how much I loved him and then I confronted him about his porn. He glared at me with hatred in his eyes. He remained silent. I asked him how long this had been going on and he said a long time. He never said he was sorry. (He never acted sorry) He never acknowledged that it was wrong. He claims to be a Christian. He attends church on Sundays mornings with me but is otherwise not engaged in his faith. I teach Sunday School, sing in the choir, and am on the worship team. I love the Lord with my whole heart. I don’t know what to do. I met with our pastor and talked with him a couple of times. My husband has been very withdrawn. When he does speak it is with an angry tone. He accuses me of all kinds of things I’ve never done. He said I love the church more than I love him. I responded that the Lord is first in my life and has been since before we met (We’ve been married 27 years). I told him that I love him very much and that I am completely committed to him. I got no response. I don’t know how much longer I can continue to live in a home that is hostile environment. I am struggling to see God at work in this situation. I know I have grown in my faith the last 6 weeks but that happens when tossed in the middle of a spiritual battle. What do I do? He refuses to have any monitoring software put on his laptop but has told me he won’t do it any more. ( I told him he had to choose porn or me) He is completely cold to me. He sleeps on the couch. He barely looks at me and barely speaks to me. He treats me like I’m the one who did something wrong. I am trying to salvage our marriage but how do you do that when everything is one-sided? I asked him to go with me and get counseling from our pastor. He said absolutely not. Our pastor has been very supportive but it is a rural church and he is the only pastor of about 250 people. I feel guilty taking up too much of his time talking about my marriage problems. I have no other support. I don’t think I can trust anyone else to tell this secret to. I’m lonely, frustrated, hurt, etc…. I am trying to trust the Lord but it’s hard sometimes. What do I do?

I would recommend reading through all of the other questions posted by wives in the spouses section of our site because it will help you to know you are not alone.  I could post all of the same answers because really they apply.    I would however highly recommend that YOU (regardless of whether your husband ever does or not) get the counseling you need.  Pure Life Ministries offers a great program for wives (over the phone).

You are definitely not alone.   You need a good support system in place though because having an unrepentant husband is going to take patience and prayer.

 

You may also find the community at WWW.PartnersForPurity.com helpful to you!

 

God bless you.

The website

Hi I just had a question about the x3watch… What if you don’t know the URLs from the websites that I have visted?

Hello,

You will need to submit your question to X3watch.

www.X3watch.com   We are unable to help you here on the ministry side of XXXchurch

Thank you!

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