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Singleness and porn

Hi, I have a preoccupation with sexual thoughts, but I think it’s just because I am single and not having sex because I’m a Christian and wish I was in a relationship. How do we get through this period of life without masturbating and without yearning for a relationship so much? I don’t like a lot about porn but I watch it to have a sexual release and don’t know what else to do with my sexual desires. Does anyone have any advice if they’ve been through the same thing? I’m nearing 30 so not a young person thinking this will all be over when I get a husband at 20 (like many girls at church who did. I wasn’t so lucky!) Thank you!

Hey Sarah,

My name is Shellie R. Warren and I’m the women’s blog editor for the site. Thanks for reaching out.

As someone who also struggled with the desire for a release after years of promiscuity, and also as someone who will be 39 in June and hasn’t had a drop of sex in six years (LOL), I can attest to the fact that abstinence *is possible*. It takes a lot of work and some days are harder than others, but it is indeed possible.

What I have realized from personal experience is that oftentimes we struggle most because we’re not really clear on what the purpose of sex is and so, only hearing that it’s wrong without really understanding WHY that is the case can be…really challenging.

Let’s start here. If you are a reader a book that I recommend you pick up is Sacred Sex. It’s by an author by the name of Tim Alan Gardner and although it’s written for married people, it is something that helped me to honor sex more.

As far as masturbation, there is a blog that I happen to do for women who desire marital covenant. Although the fast itself is closed, there is some information within the write-up that might also prove to be helpful:

http://onfirefastmovement.blogspot.com/2012/10/on-fire-deeper-look-into-masturbation.html

Also, have you ever checked out the Message Version of I Corinthians 6:16-20? It’s really…something:

“There’s more to sex than mere skin on skin. Sex is as much spiritual mystery as physical fact. As written in Scripture, ‘The two become one.’ Since we want to become spiritually one with the Master, we must not pursue the kind of sex that avoids commitment and intimacy, leaving us more lonely than ever—the kind of sex that can never “become one.” There is a sense in which sexual sins are different from all others. In sexual sin we violate the sacredness of our own bodies, these bodies that were made for God-given and God-modeled love, for “becoming one” with another. Or didn’t you realize that your body is a sacred place, the place of the Holy Spirit? Don’t you see that you can’t live however you please, squandering what God paid such a high price for? The physical part of you is not some piece of property belonging to the spiritual part of you. God owns the whole works. So let people see God in and through your body.”

I know, right?

And finally, I’m a *big believer* in the fact that if you want to heal from something, it proves to be beneficial to help someone else. I’m not sure what your spiritual walk is like (do share) but how would you feel about me pairing you up with someone to be their accountability partner? Basically, they would be someone who could write to you when they need support or prayer and you could (if you wanted to) download the software on our site so that you could get reports when they have checked out compromising websites. I have found that accountability is can sometimes be a lot more effective when people don’t actually *know* one another. There’s *absolutely no pressure* but if it’s something you would consider, let me know and I’ll connect you with someone.

In the meantime, we’re praying for you.

I Corinthians 10:13,

SRW

Sexuality

Have other woman recovered from homosexuality? Are there any good resources/stories of encouragement out there?

Yes, there have been women who have recovered from homosexuality. I would take a look at Sara’s blogs on the site. If you go to the mens tabe and open it up you will see a section called SSA, click on that and it will take you to the blogs under our SSA section. Scroll through and you will see her blogs there. Feel free to comment on her blogs as she does reply to them. I hope this helps.

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