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i want to add another computer to the accountability list i already have. we use the free service for accountability. how do i do that?
mary hand

I’ve known for about a year that my Christian father has been watching online pornography. He and my mother have been married (somewhat shakily) for over 25 years. Recently I found out that he has a profile on a website that helps singles in the area (how can I phrase this kindly?) “hook-up” sexually. I think he’s having an affair.

My father and I have a terrible relationship — we have my entire life. I’m disgusted by his behavior and I have a hard time even being in the same room with him or talking to him right now. I am unsure if my mom even knows anything is going on.

To make matters worse, I am engaged. My fiance and I are getting married in 2 months. This situation is potentially explosive if my mother really doesn’t know. But there’s no way I can just avoid both of them until I get married and then never speak to them again.

My fiance is still getting to know my family and he doesn’t know what his role should be in this situation. I realize that he isn’t my father and that we won’t have the problems my parents have in their relationship. Not to say we won’t have problems, but I realize that we are making the conscious decision everyday to not act like my parents. Still, I’m beginning to fear that someday he will tire of me and “move on” either emotionally or sexually.

Please give me advice, ideas, anything!

I started dating my boyfriend before I knew that he had struggled with pornography for the majority of his life. When I found out about it, I was extremely hurt. He was very broken about it, and could see the pain that it caused me. After that, according to him, God did some major transformation in his heart, and I believed he was ready to fully kick the sin and was on the path to recovery. I found out recently, however, that he has fallen into temptation again and still struggles with masturbation and porn. I feel horribly betrayed and hurt by this, and I am not sure what to do. I forgive him, and I want to work through this with him, but I’m not sure whether to take a break from the relationship or not. So, my question is should you be dating someone who struggles with porn? Or should you break up with them until you are certain that the sin has been completely removed from their lives? Thank you.