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I’m a Guy Who Can’t Stop Masturbating

If you got to this particular page of our site, then you’re probably one of two kinds of people: you’re either looking for some rationalization as to why masturbation is okay or you can’t help yourself and you feel like crap. Either way, we have answers for you.

If you’re the first kind, then here’s our official stance on the touchy subject of masturbation: we have a “hands-off” approach – pun intended. The topic of masturbation is highly debated. Some say it’s always bad. Some say it’s fine in certain contexts (like couples in marriage), and some say it’s part of “healthy” sexuality.

Basic Advice

We are not here to debate you.

Maybe you are single and you feel like masturbation is your only outlet for sex. Or, maybe your marriage has become virtually sexless and masturbation seems like the only reasonable answer. It’s even possible that your spouse or partner has given you their blessing because they don’t want to do the actual “work.” But, if you are here because you can’t stop doing it then it’s safe to say that things have evolved to an unhealthy level.

Anything can become compulsive, even addictive. When a sexual behavior like masturbation reaches this level it can have very unhealthy consequences on your life and your relationships.

Realize that sex is meant to be shared with another person. Sex is not about pleasing ourselves. It is not just a form of physical gratification. Sex is a real part of building physical intimacy. It’s about sharing yourself with another person whom you are spiritually and emotionally connected to (like your spouse).

Masturbation takes the focus of sex off of intimacy and puts it on pleasure. Masturbation is about pleasing me. Sex is not about that. Sex is about connection.

When masturbation becomes compulsive not only does it completely lose focus on the intimate purposes of sex but it also becomes a form of self-medication. It turns into an “escape.” This is where compulsion transitions into addiction.

If you think you might have a legit problem – like to the point where you might be addicted – then please take this addiction test and find out for sure. It only takes a few minutes and it’ll give you real answers you can plan with.

Recommended Resources

X3watch Premium

X3watch Premium

X3watch is an accountability and internet filtering software program that helps with online integrity. Whenever you access a website that contains inappropriate or pornographic material, the program will block it and record the website, time, and date the site was visited.

Get Open

Get Open

This 8 session online-video series is based off of the book with the same title and taught by it’s author Craig Gross who will discuss what being open looks like through honesty, accountability, going deeper and putting action steps that are effective in place.

My Pilgrimage

My Pilgrimage

www.X3groups.com

www.X3groups.com

Real. Honest. Life Giving.

X3groups provide online small groups where you can seek healing, find support, and process feelings and thoughts related to your porn or sexual addiction.

Need more encouragement? Have more questions?

Check out this free PDF with a complete list of recommended resources meant to help you find freedom.

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