I have some bad news. And some of you aren’t going to like it.
When I was told it I didn’t like it either.
But it’s true.
Are you ready? Here it is.
If you struggle with porn and you want to be free, you are going to have to tell someone.
There you have it. I told you, you wouldn’t like it.
There are just no two ways about it. You won’t be able to stop looking at porn all by yourself. You need help.
But if you think about it. This isn’t really bad news at all. This is really really great news. This is news that will bring you life.
Because now you can stop pretending. Now you can stop acting like you are doing well, when really you are dying inside because people think you are someone you are not.
Some of you will maybe be offended by me telling you this. That’s because as humans we have this disease where we think we need to be able to look good to the people around us. That we need to do everything on our own.
We can’t admit our weaknesses to people because if we do then we aren’t who we are claiming to be. We might just be ashamed of our secret lives.
But we shouldn’t be ashamed.
Yeah sure you may look at porn and you may know it is damaging your life and your relationships. And sure, you may be addicted to it.
But we shouldn’t be ashamed to tell others that we struggle.
Because if we are and we bottle our dirty little secret up, then we are stopping what Jesus did for us on the cross from having its full effect.
Because we are free from shame. See Romans 8 v 1 if you don’t believe me.
Maybe you just looked at porn for the hundredth time and you are feeling those same feelings.
Shame. Guilt. You want to disappear. You wish you were the last person on Earth.
You want to know why you need to tell someone?
That’s your answer there. Because those feelings of guilt and shame won’t go away until you do. And you won’t stop being able to look at porn.
Do you ever wonder why Jesus sent his disciples out in pairs?
Because he knew that they couldn’t survive alone. If the disciples needed to be accountable to each other then we definitely do. Why do we think we can beat it alone? Why do we want to keep hold of the shame we feel every time we look at porn?
Something happens when you tell someone. Something supernatural in your battle. I can’t explain it. I can’t really even define it. But it’s like we finally open up the cross and let its power pour out.
Shame has been totally removed from our lives but we hold onto it for some crazy reason, by not talking to someone.
We are living like we don’t believe in what Jesus did on the cross.
When you tell someone you won’t be able to stop Jesus’ power working in your life. It will be the most important thing you will do in your process of recovering from porn. It will give you your life back. It will allow you to like yourself again. Even love yourself again. You will want to be more real with people. You will want to then help other people. You won’t have anything against you anymore. You won’t need to get up in the morning and be tense about going out. You won’t have a reason to hide. You will start to remember that God loves you like you used to believe, before porn got its claws into you.
Now that’s great news isn’t it?!