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Porn Is Dehumanizing

by Jameson K on August 28th, 2013 in Students

It’s an interesting contradiction; we enjoy porn because we convince ourselves that the people performing in it are enjoying it as well. We think that we can become that great at sex because the images we see reinforce our fantasies. Ironically, the very thing we get the most joy out of is the most faked part of pornography. Once you can fully come to terms with the fact that what you’re watching is 100% fake on so many levels, the appeal that porn offers will start to diminish. It’s become such a mis-education in something designed to be so intimate and beautiful that when it comes time for you to do the deed, you’ll probably fumble around like an idiot because not all men and women are porn stars. And if you are having sex with a porn star (well, that’s another topic I suppose) I guarantee that they probably don’t like to discuss work at home, if you know what I mean. Some would argue that those involved in pornography like what they do. “Who wouldn’t? Getting to have sex all day AND get paid!” What you don’t hear about is the endless amounts of physical and emotional pain and damage that this lifestyle can cause. What you are watching is abuse, not to mention possibly illegal.

I was once discussing the pitfalls of porn with a friend, using the age old explanation that porn is fake, misleading and will build your sexual confidence to a level that you will never actually reach etc. His answer was “Well, I really only like watching the real ones, like people’s sex tapes, and those are obviously real so I don’t really get those high expectations.” I’m not gonna lie, that was a really good rebuttal. Was he justified though? Ahhh, not quite. Porn is porn. We are not made to watch others engage in something so private. Porn is damage on top of damage on top of damage. That woman, who you’re getting off to, who looks like she’s enjoying every second of it, is an actress, and more than likely, that “sexy look” is her attempt at enduring pain. Our bodies were not designed for this. Many actors in porn films have made claims of prior sexual abuse in their lives, not all make this claim but I would venture a guess that a large percentage would. Do you think these women dreamed of this as little girls?

 “Some women hate it so much you can hear them vomiting in the bathroom between scenes. The porn industry wants YOU to think we porn actresses love sex. They want you to think we enjoy being degraded by all kinds of repulsive acts. Some of us caught HIV from coercion (‘Work or never work again’). Another porn actress went home after a long night of numbing her pain and put a pistol to her head and pulled the trigger. We’re traumatized little girls living on anti-depressants, drugs and alcohol acting out our pain in front of you who continue to abuse us.” – Former actress Shelly Lubben

 What goes on behind the scenes is much more shocking than what you’re seeing on your screen. Drugs, alcohol, addiction, suicide, spousal and child abuse-all for the sake of “entertainment” and to get ourselves “off.” We are so selfish to indulge in this type of affliction. Porn is dehumanizing in so many ways, not only to those watching but to those who we employ by supporting their profession. Start the boycott in your own life.  Fight for those who do not have a voice and who need your help.  Jesus loves porn stars just as much as He loves you, and He wants to see everyone delivered from this pain. 

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  • Corvus Suri

    Can’t guilt me that way. I like pornographic art and writing – absolutely no possibility of abuse in creating that.

    It would be good if the porn industry was a bit better regulated, but that isn’t really practical – it’s just very mobile, business goes to the most convenient country. Even the more respectable producers oppose any regulation out of a (legitimate) fear that opponents of pornography may try to regulate them out of existence.

    • Mud angel

      Corvus, Do you have a relationship with Jesus?

      • Corvus Suri

        If he wants me , he’ll have to come down and get me himself.

        • Mudangel

          That explains why you don’t understand this website. These men want Jesus and the peace he brings and porn steals that from them. “A house divided can not stand” means You cant have both God’s peace and sin. Sin drags you away from God. They feel the pain of separation from God. It isn’t about laws and verses, it is about God’s love for us and our love for Him. When you feel it you never forget it.

          • Corvus Suri

            The applied side of Christianity is about those laws and verses. You can hardly avoid sin if you have no means to define it. There lies one of the big problems – there is no agreement, with Christians offering wildly different views on what is and is not sinful.

            Still, none of that really matters to the issue at hand. Concerns over abuse in.the porn industry are rooted firmly in the real world. No need to.get theological.

          • Mudangel

            There is plenty of agreement, but you will always have a few people who disagree with just about anything. Never the less
            No one is trying to guilt you. The writer just wants to open the eyes of many men who DO contribute to abuses. We are to love one another biblically, that includes women in videos and men who watch them. The damage is real. I hope you see it someday, you will be happier when you do.

          • Corvu Suri

            I’m not denying the damage, though I could argue there are other more-respected professions with some level of danger. I really had two points to make:

            Firstly,my irritatingly smug satisfaction that the fiction and art I like have no such concerns.

            secondly, and more importantly, much of the hardship and danger in the porn industry comes *because* it is a heavily stigmatised industry. It’s difficult to leave because few employers consider ‘porn actress’ a desireable entry on a CV. Legal action against employers is difficult when some states consider production of pornography a criminal offense and courts have no sympathy for people in the ‘immoral’ industry.

  • Mike

    My son is 17 and I have found porn on his phone and Ipad. This is the third time in several years I have found it. What should I do?

    • Kyle

      Come to him as a father. Tell him your past experiences with sex and porn, and maybe the mistakes you have made. Love him through it, but keep him accountable.

    • manicsloth

      Stop looking at his stuff then you pervert.

  • michelis

    porn kills the s
    pirit

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