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What’s Up (in the Media) Wednesdays. 04.03.13

by Shellie R. Warren on April 3rd, 2013 in The Haps

Whew…

The past week has really been something, so let’s get right to it:

1) CafeMom posted a pretty cute article entitled “My First Grader Explains ‘Twilight,’ ’50 Shades of Grey,’ the Kardashians & More”. When the little boy was asked what 50 Shades was about, he said “This is about a guy named James who wears a tie and he’s like a president and there’s a big war that tries to destroy him so he pulls the tie off and he fights his way through using the tie like nunchucks. Wapow!” Oh, wouldn’t it be nice if everything was that innocent for a child? Unfortunately, it’s not. I also read that a pretty profound piece entitled “The Day My 11-Year-Old Son Found Violent Porn on the Web”: “He watched it because one of his new friends told him he should – because it was ‘funny’. He is finding it hard to make friends at his new secondary school and wanted to fit in. He didn’t know what he was going to see. I know this because, from that particular day, I noticed my son becoming withdrawn. He seemed sullen and easily upset. I knew something was wrong and asked several times if he was OK. Clearly he wasn’t.” And the thing is, being that I am someone who doesn’t think that events are simply “happenstance”, I thought about that article in parallel to a highly-disturbing piece about two fifth graders (one 10 and one 11) who are about to stand trial in juvenile court (in part) for plotting rape and then kill one of their classmates. Thoughts like that don’t come from “nowhere”. We’ve got to do better about protecting our children. Shoot, ourselves for that matter. Nothing about porn or sex outside of covenant is…innocent.

2) Speaking of “training a child up in the way he should go” (Proverbs 22:6), I also read that “Mommy Porn” is on the rise (am I the only one who is creeped out by that term?). And the reason why is something that we’ve spoken about here many times: “The nice thing with the e-readers [is] you can read anything on it and no one knows what you’re reading,” said Holt. “You could be reading one of my books, you could be reading Shakespeare.” Uh-huh. You know what mama used to say. If you need to hide it, you probably don’t need to be doing it. Moms are mentors. I wonder if we’d be as “cool” if the porn was called “mentor porn”. SMH.

3) OK, and out of porn and into how irresponsible sex affects us all in the real world, I also read that there are currently 110 million (110 MILLION) venereal disease cases in the United States. You know, the world is something else (according to the Bible, full of lust and pride-I John 2:16). It seems like covenant marital relationships are always being attacked but can you imagine what this world would look like if we all had stayed virgins until marriage and stayed married to only one person until we died? The Bible brings new meaning to “If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it.”

4) If you have a Blackberry (like I do), and more specifically a Blackberry Z10, here’s something that you might want a heads up on: “The newest Blackberry Messenger (BBM) build has a feature that notifies all of your BBM contacts when you’re listening to a song or watching a video–be it from Youtube or [a porn site].” Hmph. I wonder how many people will be getting that as a mobile phone present all of a sudden. (LOL)

5) And finally, while I didn’t read the US Magazine cover story on Tiger Woods and his new girlfriend, I must admit that the title caught my attention “Lindsey Vonn: In Love with a Sex Addict”. So, I’ll leave with this question: Most of us know someone who has battled with porn or sexual addiction. However, how long are they considered to be a “porn addict” or a “sex addict”? A year? Three years? 10 years? Sometimes, I “fear” that the labels can be just as damaging as the stronghold. What do you think?

Til next week…

SRW

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    Men who are prone to rape likely use porn, maybe with a preference for violent material. Men who would never hurt another human being also likely use porn but despise violent material. Porn doesn’t create rapists or cause men to be violent. The 11 year old’s mother gave him a “smartphone” (aka pocket porn player) and is complaining that he got tricked into looking at abusive porn. She wrote that she didn’t mind if he looked at porn.She is a child abuser by neglect. The two boys involved in a plot haven’t said where they got their ideas, but one has an older brother who is a thief and probably a bad influence. Murder isn’t a porn niche, but violence and murder are glamorized in other media, esp. video games, movies and to some extent, in the news. The connection between these two stories is gross parental neglect.

    I agree that mommyporn is a turnoff word, but for the reason that some men lose interest in their wives once they become mothers. We don’t associate (consciously) having sex with our love for our mothers. Others adopt the gross term MILF…and some women wear the badge with pride. Anonymity and easy access are two key ingredients of the modern porn “epidemic”. People do private things in private, or at least they should; women don’t often keep secrets from each other though. The Gray books were promoted verbally, publicly. Mentor porn, or teacher/student sex is a very common theme.

    Your idealist world is a fine idea, but if there were no venereal diseases then promiscuity would be a less dangerous affair, too. Makes one wonder where STI’s came from. The Bible doesn’t teach that a person must be a virgin before marriage, else widows wouldn’t be allowed to remarry. The only women required to be virgins before their wedding day were those who had been betrothed, which in that day was equivalent to a marriage contract; any dalliance was considered adultery and a divorce contract (or death) would be required to end the marriage that hadn’t yet been consummated. “Premarital sex” was considered a potential marriage, unless it was rape or prostitution.

    Tiger Woods new girlfriend has to realize what she is headed for…. and apparently doesn’t mind. Suggestions to her: Don’t get pregnant for at least 3 years; prenuptial agreement, self-defense courses and keep your options open. My answer is a real sex addict will likely remain one and no, we shouldn’t use labels; it is possible to overcome it.

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