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8 Ways Porn Changes You.

by Shellie R. Warren on May 28th, 2015 in Women

Can Someone Tell Me How Porn Is Good for Them - BlogIt is Gloria Steinem who once said “Pornography is the instruction. Rape is the practice, battered women are the practice, and battered children are the practice.” I couldn’t help but to think about that as I read a story about a 13-year-old boy who raped his eight-year-old sister. Not because he was angry. Or malicious. Or a “bad boy”. It was because he had seen porn on his Xbox and “decided to try it out”. And when you read stories like that, does it not make Ms. Steinem’s words resonate, quite loudly?

Although a lot of us are used to pastors and Christian organizations talking about the detriment of porn, they are not the only ones. In fact, Oprah did a feature entitled “The Negative Effects of Porn” and it cited the following five things:

1.Porn is a drug that leads to addiction.

2. Porn is a form of sexism.

3. Porn portrays all women in one of four degrading, dehumanizing categories. They’re either a “greedy gold-digger,” “mindless playmate,” “insatiable nymphomaniac” or “one who craves pain.”

4. Porn makes men get bored with their own wives.

5. Porn cultivates a single standard of beauty that no real women can live up to.

And actually, because so many of those focus on women and how they are victimized by porn, being that the highest rate of porn watchers continues to be men, I’m going to add a few of my own:

6. Porn reduces men to having sex on instinct rather than with emotion.

7. Porn hinders men from enjoying sex from a healthy spiritual place.

8. Porn teaches men to not only treat women as sex objects but to treat their own bodies in the same fashion. Even though they also are to see themselves as temples of the Holy Spirit. (I Corinthians 6:16-20 – Message)

And here’s the thing, as I was reading through the article about the teenage boy who honestly is a victim along with this sister, I found this one sentence to be, oddly fascinating: “When children see porn, they have no context for what it is used for. There is pressure on children to be sexualized, particularly on younger boys, to start having sex.”

OK. I get that. But honestly, when we as adults watch porn, do we know what context to put it in ourselves? I mean, if porn results in addiction, lack of intimacy, decreased satisfaction, desensitization and feelings of despair—why do so many of us try and tell ourselves that “it won’t hurt us”?

There are so many articles which cite that children are too young for porn or porn in large doses is not the healthiest but honestly, the further I am away from it, I can’t find one redeeming quality that it has. Not one. I used to joke around and say that at least when I watched it, I couldn’t get pregnant or an STD. That was until the Lord was like “There are Sexually Transmitted Diseases and then there are Spiritually Transmitted Diseases.” (Tweet This) Touche’. Touche’.

So, although this is a bit of an odd post, I’m curious to hear your thoughts. Being that there are so many negative things that have been proven (PROVEN) to come from porn usage and yet there are millions of individuals who continue to engage in it anyway, can any of you share some of the good things that come from watching porn?

Sometimes, in order to break free, it’s not about seeing how negative something is, but how much it actually lacks in positivity in the process.

 

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  • Porn provided me pleasure for a time. That’s it. That’s the only “good” thing I got out if it. And if life were primarily about experience than I’d encourage everyone to try it out.

    However, life is not primarily about experiences. It’s about RELATIONSHIPS. And porn did nothing but WOUND my relationships with my wife, my kids and even my Dad (who discovered my porn use at one point – yes, the highlight of my life).

    And though my porn exposure ended in 2001 and all those relationships are repaired, I would never, never, never want to encourage anyone to try porn. Run. Barricade the door. Enlist the help of those who love you best. Because your life is made full and broad and deep through relationships. Period.

    I share a little more of my story in a guest post here: http://students.faithoncampus.com/bigger-and-better-than-sex/

    Sharing this, by the way, with
    the Future Marriage University (FMU) community at https://www.facebook.com/FMUniversity.

  • Adam Long

    Yes, for that moment of thirst, i.e. that temporary moment to feed an addiction. Otherwise no one would do it, but they do for that moment because they do think it’s good for them (though falsely). But in the long run it isn’t. it’s that long term mentality that ought to lead to deciding in the moment that while it may feel good at the moment it isn’t worth it for the sake of the long term.
    More here: http://www.freedomyou.com/breaking_porn_addiction__action_1__make_a_decision_freedomyou.aspx

  • AlbiBird

    I could, yes, but I believe I have already shared my story with you.

  • ClaimingDeliverance

    “There are sexually transmitted diseases and there are spiritually transmitted diseases”

    I positively adore this statement!!!! Thank you for sharing such a wonderful post!!

    • Bob

      I absolutely agree, religion is the most vicious spiritual disease

  • Mkane

    Not a weird post at all. Spot on.

  • Christine

    I always thought there would be more healing from porn wounds if men would speak up more. These posts are a terrific example of that happening. Thank you for your courage, men.

  • James Harmon

    As a child my older cousin kept hardcore pornography in a closet next to his old toys. So, it was a matter of time before , I happened upon these magazines.
    I was around 6 years old when I first looked at a pornographic image.
    From then on I felt a draw to look at my cousins magazine’s whenever I could.
    Since I had free reign to get toys when at my aunt’s house I would look at these magazines a lot.
    Though, I didn’t understand the images, there was a compulsion to look at them.
    Eventually I began to steal these magazines and take them home.
    I believe this was the beginning of a life of pain and addiction.

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