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The Power of (Eh Hem) Semen

by Shellie R. Warren on March 28th, 2012 in Women

Yeah. Well.

So, I was teaching a class recently and talking to an unmarried couple where the woman (mid-30s) is about to have her first child with a man (late 40s) is about to have his seventh with her. As we were discussing the circumstances that led them to their current state, it was…let’s use the word, intriguing, how the man didn’t think that he had any kind of sexual control issue. And when I asked the woman if she did, she wasn’t really sure.

So, I posed this (and yes, I’m posing this to some of you bible critics out there as well):

“It seems that people spend a lot of time trying to disprove what the Word, which is God (John 1:1), says about the original and ordained order of sex (Hebrews 13:4 pretty much sums it up) and yet, what would the world be like if everyone had waited until marriage to have sex and then married their spouse at the right time and for the right reasons? (You’d be amazed how many people knew *on their wedding day*, that they should cancel their nuptials.) How fewer problems would we have physically, emotionally and relationally?”

The man wasn’t totally convinced that it would cut the drama down *significantly*, but I could see the wheels turning in his head. And then I had a follow-up:

“And being that there is so much science out here that would prevent unplanned pregnancies, why is it that so many people would risk, not just a pregnancy before they are ready, but a potential illness, etc. by engaging in unprotected sex, even if they don’t believe in waiting until marriage, anyway?”

Again, he had no answer, but he did look at me with a smirk. I simply replied with, “Cause obviously, you’re not a big fan of condoms, right?”

And then I thought about my own sexual past. I make it no secret that it took *a lot of blood, sweat and tears*, LITERALLY, to get me to five years without sexual intercourse. I also make it no secret that in my sexual history, there are four abortions and a bout with chylamydia that’s a part of it. Yep, I too wasn’t the biggest condom fan (SMH), but it was after my session that I wanted to do some research as to why. As a woman, I wanted to know if there was a real connection between putting my life at risk (because that’s what you’re basically doing, these days, more than ever) and the sexual act itself. Yes, I know that there is one in the spirit realm (I Corinthians 6:16), but what about the physical one?

If you Google “sex health benefits”, you’ll find many. It eases depressions, relieves stress, boosts cardio, heals wounds and fights aging. And yes, before y’all start, I’m sure some of you are like, “Right. So why be abstinent whether married or single?” Well, I’ll leave it at this: Driving has a lot of benefits too. If you do it before you’re mature enough, if you do it *without a license*, it can cause some problems up the road. Y’all know that I believe in the Word and it says that sex is for married folks. Feel free to share your opposing views, but I’m personally not gonna debate that anymore (Colossians 2:8).

Moving on…

Then I went to look up the health benefits as it directly relates to semen. I mean, the health reports are showing us that consequences that are happening as a direct result of people partaking in activities that directly expose us to it, so what gives? Again, on one side, there are reported cases that it serves as an antidepressant and that the seminal plasma in it even fights certain kinds of cancer. Also, it lowers the risk of pregnant women developing preeclampsia.

And then…there was the other side of the coin:

*Semen contains proteins with potent bactericidal activity but these proteins are not active against Neisseria gonorrhoeae, a common cause of sexually transmitted disease.

*The presence of blood in semen or hematospermia may be undetectable (it only can be seen microscopically) or visible in the fluid. Its cause could be the result of inflammation, infection, blockage, or injury of the male reproductive tract or a problem within the urethra, testicles, epididymis or prostate.


*It is thought that the psychological effects of semen are a result of its complex chemical make-up including several mood-altering hormones (testosterone, oestrogen, follicle-stimulating hormone, luteinizing hormone, prolactin and several different prostaglandins). In a scientific survey of 293 college women it was also found that those who did not use condoms were most likely to initiate sex and to seek out new partners as soon as a relationship ended, suggesting that the chemical dependency to semen creates a “rebound effect”. The effect of semen on a male sexual partner (a receiver of semen) is not known.

In the Church, especially when it comes to the emotional connection, this is oftentimes referred to as a soul tie. Oh, but isn’t it interesting that there’s actual scientific data to support the fact that many women may remain in relationships that aren’t best or wise for them because they are literally dependent upon the person that they are having sex with? That they go from person to person because of the chemical(s) in the semen that makes them feel like they need it in order to feel, on a bad day, good and on an OK day, better? That some of us may be so caught up in semen’s “rebound effect” that we don’t even think about the other dire consequences that come along with such a risk?

I dunno, y’all. When you read articles like, “Why Young Women Keep Making Striptease Videos, and Why Guys Keep Sharing Them” and discover that over 71% of teens are using webcams in their bedrooms, when you know that books like Dirty Little Secrets: Breaking the Silence on Teenage Girls and Promiscuity needed to be penned, is it just me or does sexual addiction need to be taken a little more literally than we initially thought *even among women*? That both inside and outside of the Church, the “safe sex” message needs to be approached from a more *literal* standpoint?

Church folks used to sing, “There’s power in the blood.” They were referring to Christ and that’s always a positive kind of power.

On a totally different plane, there’s power (and human blood) in semen too. And it seems to be *overpowering* a lot of us.

In more ways than one. And not always for the good. There are plenty of stats surrounding unplanned pregnancies, abortions, STDs, promiscuity and brokenheartedness to prove it.

Sound off…



  • Biblio_Phil

    Regarding your main topic, I’m anti-condom use. Sex with a condom is masturbation to me, and not very good masturbation at that. I imagine this “science” will be in dispute in the future. We’ll see. I heard similar things regarding usage of the pill, making women less psychologically or hormonally bound to their mates… so combine both of these together and you get some dissatisfied women who aren’t interested in having sex with their men. When they start ovulating, if another better looking man is about… look out.

    Jesus, the second Person of the Trinity, known also as the Word is God.
    The Bible (“Word”) is not God. It just carries a message from God. • There is power in the blood of Jesus, indeed. There is no salvation from our sins without faith in His holy, shed blood.(Heb9:22;Rom3:25) • I don’t believe the Bible teaches that sex binds people spiritually. The Bible says “one flesh”, not one spirit. We are one spirit with the Lord by virtue of the indwelling Holy Spirit (1 Cor.6:17; Acts 9:4)), by which we are also one spirit, to a lesser extent by far, with other believers (1 Cor.12:26).

    If sex made people bonded spiritually, then they would still be married after the body dies, which isn’t the case (Rom.7:2). Some people feel like sex is a spiritual experience, but that’s not the same as it being a spiritual bond. Being “one flesh” with the other person means that the woman is legally subject to her husband (Gen.3:16; Num.30:7-8; 1 Cor.11:3) in a permanent union (Matt.19:6) before God. (The parallel is that we, having submitted to the lordship of Christ, become members of His body, one flesh with Him; we are subject to Him, the Head of the Body (Eph.5:24). We call him lord the same as a wife calls her husband, lord. (1 Peter 3:6; “baal” defined: [#H1167) “owner, husband, lord”

    Agreed that abstinence, no sex, is safe sex and has a 100% success record. I think Surgeon General Joycelyn Elders was right.

    The Bible nowhere says that sex is prohibited outside of marriage. The only time it *seems* to say this is regarding a woman who was married with the understanding that she was a virgin. The girls were bought with a virgin’s bridal price which was expensive, while they were children. Once the contract was made, the girl was betrothed which meant she belonged to her husband already. He just had to wait until she turned of age, about 13, in order to have the ceremony and become man and wife. She was expected to remain a virgin until the wedding; any sex was punishable as adultery, termed “playing the whore”. (Deut.22:21)  If a non-betrothed virgin had sex, there was NO  punishment, no sin. (Exodus 22:16-17). There is no prohibition or regulation given for women who no longer live under their father’s house. There is never any regulation of men’s sexual behavior before or during marriage, except for the taboos of Leviticus 18. Fornication (porneia) means harlotry, specifically idol worship by means of sex: 1 Corinth.10:8 cp. Numbers 25:1-3.

    First Corinth.7:2 is instruction for married people to have sexual relations in order to avoid the temple prostitutes in Corinth. (Its not telling singles to get married to avoid premarital sex) ( John Gill commentary: “that is, let every man that has a wife enjoy her, and make use of her,
    and let every woman that has an husband, receive him into her embraces;
    for these words are not to be understood of unmarried persons entering
    into a marriage state, for the words suppose them in such a state)

    Hebrews 13:4 is a somewhat obscure verse commanding Jewish (likely all married) men, the “Hebrews”, to “Honor the wedding (-festival) in every way (neuter adjective) and keep the marriage bed undefiled. The latter expression is a well known reference to adultery (which to Jews only meant: don’t have sex with another man’s wife), so in the second half of that verse, the reference to “fornicators”, that is, male prostitutes or pimps (the Greek pornos is the male form of the word porné, prostitute) must indicate that that behavior somehow dishonored marriage, presumably their own marriage. The English word fornication originally meant prostitution, but since its meaning has changed, it should no longer be used to translate “porneia”.

    Marriage is a wonderful tradition which has much value to all parties involved in the sexual relationship of a man and woman. But, its a tradition, not a requirement. According to the Bible, sex makes a man and woman who enter a consensual relationship become “one flesh”, a permanent union in God’s eyes. The Jews recognized three ways of acquiring a wife: Bridal price (a ring is sufficient), contract (ketubah) OR by sex. Any of the three methods were sufficient, though the norm was to do all three.

    I’m done sounding off.

    • Suri

      I agree, but you missed another important part. Look through Samson’s story. I forget the exact verse, but he visits a prostitute, and has sex. This results in… nothing. No punishment earthly or divine. No statement of disapproval. It only gets mentioned to explain the circumstances of an ambush. Just how little attention the prostitute gets says what the culture of the time thought about a man using a prostitute: they thought it perfectly acceptable and commonplace.

      • Biblio_Phil

         I would only qualify that it was acceptable as long as she wasn’t married and not a cult prostitute. They were looked down upon by proper society, along with tax collectors. It is somewhat strange that Rahab is always called the harlot, not the ex-harlot.

        • Suri

          True. The important conclusion remains though. This idea that no sex before marriage is ever acceptable really has no biblical backing at all. It’s just a tradition invented after even the new testament was written. Christians today just project their own beliefs into the text.

          • Biblio_phil

             Thanks to Augustine, I think.

  • Mike Kennedy

    No mention of bodily secretions of woman? Men are only the problem, I guess, with all their damn semen. Another sexist post towards men.

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