Questions

Frequently Asked Questions.

Porn Trigger

I recently found out what is my biggest trigger to porn, it is studying. This is quite a big problem due to the fact that I need to study in order to get my degree to get the job that I want one day. What is your suggestions to this? I can’t just stop studying.

Define studying. Is it the research that you need to be doing on the computer? I’m not sure I understand your question enough to be able to respond to it. What makes studying OR what part of studying is a trigger for you?

Accountability

I am your “run-of-mill” porn and masturbation addict. I have been on a slow road to recovery. I have a question about accountability. A lot of blog posts on here are about how we need accountability. I have tried to be accountable with some friends who I say they want accountability, but every time I confess or tell them I’m struggling they don’t always answer. There is no confession or communication on their part. I’ve given up on them, but it hurts a little to share my struggle and open up, and they have given little. I guess my question is: who is the ideal accountability partner? Should they be the older, wiser or should it grow out of a friendship where there is a shared passion for following Christ? This accountability stuff seems like it’s for the birds sometimes. I am just man who desires encouragement and to equally give it. Right now, for me, that barely exists, if at all.

Unfortunately, we do hear a lot of this. But yes– you are onto something when you ask if accountability should grow out of a friendship. This seems to be the best set up for success because in friendship you know the other person is invested in you and cares. In a friendship where both have Christ as their center, Godly accountability should just be part of your relationship and not something forced. Sometimes we need people to hold our feet to the fire so to speak and the only ones who are really going to do that are people that are invested in our lives.

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Strategies for Overcoming

I’ve been fighting a porn addiction for many many years … and about a year ago, finally told my wife about my problems. She is a fantastic woman and has helped me where she can. I’m just wondering if anyone out there have strategies for keeping your mind pure. We are constantly surrounded by images of skimpily clad woman, not to mention the years of built up objectification of woman makes it so hard to not see any woman as an object. I pray constantly for God to renew my mind and help me overcome this. I feel like I’m progressing, but so very slowly. It’s so hard to not automatically let your eyes wander over a woman’s body. I try to catch myself, but it just seems like a built in mechanism I can’t compete with. Thoughts ?

Have you thought about going through an X3pure Men’s workshop? How about joining a X3group?