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Thanks alot for all you guys have been doing on this site. After all this time i’m still struggling and i’m really afraid if i’m ever gonna be able to stop. Have people ever been able to overcome porn…i’ld really appreciate if they’ld share their personal testimonies.THANKS!
Absolutely!!
Please go through our video archives. There are many testimonies there and on the site in the blogs. You are not alone. YOU CAN have VICTORY over this. Set yourself up for the WIN with good accountabilty, good boundaries, internet filters and whatever it takes to make it!
Godspeed!!
At times I feel like I’m the only women in the world who has a problem with pornography and masturbation. I know that it’s not true but its hard not feeling alone in this battle when I don’t know any other woman with this problem. I was sexually abused though out my life starting at the age of five and was exposed to porn at the age of seven. Growing up I was taught that masturbation was a normal and ok thing to do so that really only made things worse. I didn’t realize that I had a problem till about 3-4 years ago. I feel like the world/church looks at this as a man’s problem and not so much a woman’s. I know that its wrong and I don’t want to have this problem anymore. At times I’m good about having the self-control to sustain. I’m really hard on myself when ever I stumble because I really love God and want to live a life that honors Him. I mean how can I worship God and tell God that I love Him when I have this problem. I don’t understand why God still loves me when i stumble so much. Are that any 12-step programs for women with this problem? How do i go about finding someone in my church to talk to and help hold me accountable?
Thank you for sharing your heart and your battle. You are right the church is WAY behind in dealing with modern day sin issues (as if they didn’t exist in biblical times!! Have we ever read about the things going on in the Galatian CHURCH?) But you do know the truth- you said it, you are *not* alone. You also know the importance of accountability. I want to give you Craig’s new book OPEN that talks about accountability in detail and what it should look like and with whom. You will have to take the risk on someone you TRUST to help carry you through but it will be worth it!
Also consider X3groups as I do believe one is forming for women now. I admire your courage and strength to share your struggle here. Let me encourage you that not only are you not alone in the battle but you will not be alone in the VICTORY!
God is with you in everything! Hopes, dreams, success and failures!
My son is from Honduras and recently went to Christ for the Nations. When he came back from his first semester, he confessed to me that he had been struggling with a porn addiction since sixth grade and that he had found help at CFNI. He asked me to be one of his accountability partners and he put xxx filters on his computer. For the next year I got the notices and it always said that he had not visited any questionable sites. He no longer has a computer but has an i-phone which he uses a lot. He has no filters on this i-phone and I am worried that he may fall back into the patterns he had before. When I asked him if he thought it might be a good idea to get a filter, he said that it cost $10/month to put it on the i-phone and that he couldn’t afford that. I don’t want to judge him but I also want to be wise. Any suggestions you might have would be very welcome.
I think $7 a month is a worthwhile investment considering the protection it provides.
If he doesn’t want accountability or a filter then there really is nothing you can do but pray for him and continue to encourage him- UNLESS he is under 18. If so then you have the right to override his decision about the iPhone app. Clearly an iPhone cell bill is not cheap- it is hard to believe that another $7 a month on top of that is a “make it or break it” situation.
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