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My husband and I have been struggling with sex in our relationship most of the time we’ve been married. He seems to have a very low sex drive while I have a very high drive. I’m battling pornography addiction and I initially go to my husband when I feel aroused, he almost always turns me down. This leads me to feel desperate, not only that he turns me down but that I have to release. The result is usually masturbation or viewing porn. What can I do to divert my attention/ help me when I’m feeling so desperate? I’ve talked to my husband multiple times about having sex more and my struggles but nothing’s changed so I think I just need to be able to get rid of the feelings I’m having.
Dear Meagan,
While I am not excusing your husband for denying you sexually because that is just downright wrong. You have to accept ownership of your own actions and make sure you are not blaming your husband for your issue with porn and masturbation. I do understand fully that his lack of desire or interest in fulfilling this need for you definitely makes the battle harder. My husband left me years ago for his untamable, out of control porn addiction. That left me of course without a life mate including my sex partner. I am responsible for my thought life and my actions– as a Christian, God is my source of all fulfillment so I have had to learn to turn to Him. True, He does not fulfill my desire for orgasm with the outcome my flesh would prefer but His never ending grace is sufficient to carry me through. It is sufficient for you too.
Pure Life Ministries offers counseling to women struggling with this addiction and we also have the X3pure workshops. You are definitely not alone but I do believe that part of your freedom will come in ownership and truly allowing God to be your source of fulfilment.
Hi, I have had a long struggle with porn and masterbation I have been 9 months without either. My question is im newly married, (2 months) and despite having a physical relationship with my wife, and no outside stimulation, I’m having dreams about sex (not my wife) often, and those dreams sometimes lead to ejaculation. Is this normal? Is there something I can do? My wife believes it’s something I should be able to control, but despite how much i try they keep happening. I’m starting to believe my years of porn have damaged me permanently… and it makes me sick every time it happens, and my wife is also hurt every time. what can I do? Any advice would help… even basic information about this problem… J
Dear Jesse,
Almost a year of freedom from a struggle that one gripped you is an AMAZING acomplishment and you (and your wife) need to celebrate that. Newly married and perhaps somewhat insecure (insecurity can be a normal emotion when a wife knows of this battle) can contribute to your wife’s feelings about the dreams. I however think it is noble and honorable that you have shared this with her, giving her an opportunity to warfare with you in prayer. What you are experiencing is indeed a manifestation of what you once indulged however I do not believe it is permanent! It is a battle and one that you need to keep fighting. You cannot control your dreams- you can only control what you do with them when you are awake and aware. I say kudos to you. I say keep doing all that you are doing and pray that your wife will come along side of you and see what an amazing thing you have already acomplished.
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