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Frequently Asked Questions.
my question is this
my uncle was a big porn star
then he died with aids
i then got into porn and the Adult industry , stripping , web cams
and now my daughter is just coming out of the same industry
could this be a generational sin ?
i also feel guilty for setting a BAD example to my daughter
because i was the stripper first
and she followed me after i opened my big
mouth to tell her the money was good
now i am still live with this guilt
i want to make a book
tell my story about how this has effected our family in so many ways
but i am scared too
but i want to help her
so she does not end up like my uncle 🙁
please can you give me advice
God Bless
D.
Dear D.
I think if you a believer then you see in the Scriptures that sins can be passed down through generations. We are still responsible for our choices to choose if we will indulge in temptation or not.
You don’t need to write a book to reach your daughter. Have an open, honest conversation with her. Tell her all of your thoughts, your fears, concerns, regrets etc. And love her regardless of what direction she goes.
Please visit our Industry page for more resources.
Best wishes you to and upon your family!!
Hey hey. So I got married in January. It’s awesome. I had been (and could make a case for “am still”) addicted to porn for over 10 years, and by the grace of God, my temptation was largely removed when I got engaged. I stopped having the urges every moment of the day. It was amazing. And I fight so hard to not take that for granted. So then we got married and we could have all the sex we wanted (we saved it for marriage). Sex is awesome, it truly is. But I want to learn. I want to find out how to do cool new stuff, make her feel better every time, all of the above. My first instinct is to turn to porn to learn the moves, to see how a couple interacts, to see how it all works. OBVIOUSLY porn isn’t real sex, that’s not how real people work, and I’m not looking to act like a porn star in bed. I am well aware that porn is far from being realistic. But because I learn so well visually, I feel like I need to watch a couple, real or not, have sex to learn how to better have sex with my wife. I really DON’T want to do this though. I don’t want to turn to porn or anything else because I want to stay 100% faithful to my wife. But I want to please her and I’m having a hard time learning how because neither of us know what we’re doing (we’re each other’s firsts). Also, I’m well well aware that it’s a work in progress. I don’t expect us to have mind-blowing sex right away, in fact, I don’t expect it for years. But I want to constantly be improving, I just don’t know where to start.
Congrats on your marriage and kudos to you for knowing that porn is not the place to learn great sex AND intimacy with your spouse! I think one of the greatest resources we have would be spot on for you (no pun intended!) www.BestSexLifeNow.com is the link.
Enjoy each other and enjoy the learning process.
Hey,
I’m addicted to porn. I only started looking at hardcore a couple months ago, but have struggled with my controlling eyes for year (i.e. softcore). I’m a deeply committed Christian and I know the harmful affects of porn. I simply can’t seem to stop. I have an accountability partner who has installed covenant eyes to monitor my online activity. I either find ways around it or sometimes simply search anyways. I have fasted, prayed, memorized scriptures, and read online help for porn addictions. I struggle with extreme guilt and feel helpless. I promise never to do it again only to find myself doing it again a week or so later. I don’t want to buy anything online because my parents see my credit card activity (linked bank accounts). I guess I’m writing this because my goal was to stop my summer, but I have failed. What can I do? I feel like I have tried everything.
Thanks for any feedback,
J.
Dear J.,
You are not alone but you must set yourself up for a win if you are to break free of this.
Setting yourself up for a win means removing obvious stumbling blocks for yourself. Is it a computer in your bedroom? Move it to the living room. Is it wifi on your cell phone- turn it off or put an accountability software on it and USE it properly. There is a great book called OPEN that talks about accountability, what it is and how it is supposed to work. I highly recommend it.
You can also visit our START HERE section for more advice and resources.
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