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Frequently Asked Questions.
I just wrote on the confession site. But what do I do about this situation? My life is government by women – women’s cell groups, women’s prayer groups, women’s conferences, women’s days, women’s retreats, women’s breakfasts. It has been like this for almost 10 years, after my church separated men and women, and started to have women-only cell groups. There is no male influence in my life, and I have become uncomfortable if by some miracle I should find myself talking to a male. Talking to a male is so strange now I just want to get away from him. I started to try out porn sites in order to balance my life, to have some resemblance of male influence in my life. I have only had this problem in the last 10 years when men and women were separated at my church and they started to have single-sex house groups. (Except for leadership team, they still contain both sexes.)
Well, I’ve seen porn when I was in 7th grade and I start to masturbate when I was in 8th grade in ends of december, since then I can’t stop, and my mom doesn’t know yet, only a friend of mine knows that, but I don’t know what to do, I became into an addict to this, I have pray but I can’t find an answer, I want to get help but I don’t know where to start, and this has became into a some-kind of curse, I can’t see the girl that I like (without her knowing) to her eyes, because my mind starts to create something more horrible, I can’t see a model, cosplayer girl, actress or any beautiful women because this is eatting me alive. What can I do?
Thanks for your question. I think you will find much of the answers you are looking for if you spend some time on our site. There are hundreds of blogs written by other men who have been right where you are. I think you will find hope and encouragement from those who have found victory over the same battle. We also have an abundance of resources and book recommendations in the resource section of the Men’s category on the main site.
I keep hearing at church of God “delivering” people instantly from addictions. I serve Him. I love Him. I have asked Him to help me but for some reason that “instant” thing hasn’t happened to me. I am still in my sexual addiction. Has God forgotten about me? Why do some people get that burden lifted but for others it’s a fight? I’m considering joining a 12 step program. Is God okay with process? Or will He be angry that I’m not trusting just Him and the Bible?
Oh dear one. Not one person is instantly delivered of everything. The bible tells us that until we die there will be a battle between our flesh and the Spirit both which we live with. This does not give license to continue in habitual sin but clearly some things take longer. We must be pro-active though in setting ourselves up for the win.
I think there are some wonderful 12 step recovery groups such as Celebrate Recovery. We also have a program that focuses specifically on this issue.
God has not forgotten you. He will surely help you. Keep in mind that you have to do whatever it takes to cut off that which besets you… so if it is the internet- you may need to get rid of it for awhile or at least put a filter on that you do not have the password to. There are so many steps to take that can set you up for a win!!
God bless you
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