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My name is Levi and so far getting distracted by porn hasn’t been a big problem, but every once and a while i will see something and it instantly clicks to watch porn. I’ve been overcoming it I just want to keep my promises to never go down that road again. Is there any way to make sure i stay on the right path?
Hey Levi,
A couple of things that we believe are extremely important.
1. Accountability
2. Setting yourself up for the win.
#1 is easier than it looks or feels. #2 can actually be the more difficult.
Setting ourselves up for the win is making sure our environment and actions are consistent with what we’re working towards. Sometimes we need to disipline ourselves to the degree that we have to give up (or lay thing down) for a season or sometimes permanently.
Example: Simple things like television or computer use might need to be re-examined to determine if they are stumbling blocks. The computer might be fine during certain hours but a problem at others— so knowing what your stumbling blocks are and the perameters that need to be put in place is a great step towards setting yourself up for the WIN!
Best wishes!
Hello! I am a 16 year old girl and have been addicted to porn and masturbating since I was 12. I was addicted for 3 years, I was free from it for over a year and during that time I had become so close to God. Long story short, I became addicted again for multiple reasons, I had stopped for 3 weeks, but it just seems like I cant break the chains this time. The temptation just becomes so overwhelming that I feel like I cant overcome it. I just feel so lost about this whole situation. I want to get the x-3 watch thing, but I don’t want my parents to find out because for lots of reasons. I sorta have an accountability person, but idk she doesn’t really ask me any questions and we don’t really talk about it. Help please!
Hi Lauren,
Sometimes the very thing we do not want to do we need to do. I would encourage you to talk with your parents or at least tell them that the computer is causing you areas of distraction and that you feel you need accountability. Just knowing your parents will see your reports should help you tremenously!
God bless
My husband is in a recovery group because he is addicted to porn. I realize that after him being unfaithful twice all the while looking at a ridiculous amounts of porn, I have become very jaded. While my hopfull loving side is very happy he is actively getting help, I’m really only happy for our childrens opportunity to have a father who puts them and not porn 1st. While I have forgiven him my EXTREME lack of trust is keeping me from any interest in him at all. As he is learning to deal with his issues and is accountable he is taking more interest in me that frankly I got use to not getting. While I would love to feel something towards him, I don’t. The only way I feel connected to him is in our friendship. As his friend I can be fully understanding and helpful but as his wife I am guarded and in extreme pain. I don’t know how to recover or where to begin. I think there’s a question in there somewhere. thanks.
Dearest Prudence,
You are speaking my language. I was married to a man who struggled significantly with this and I can so relate to your situation. I do understand the whole friend vs husband scenario. Here’s the deal though… your husband is getting help. He needs to walk this out and you can continue to support him in that and as he continues to gain momentum in his victory over sexual sin, I think you will begin to soften IF you are seeking the Lord daily for yourself and YOUR restoration.
Your husband cannot restore you— only God can do that and the most awesome thing about that is not only does God want to, but HE CAN!
I would recommend you go through our spouses blogs and resources. Email me: michelle@XXXchurch and I will send you a list of books and recommendations as well if you want those.
God bless you. -Michelle
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