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Boyfriend’s Porn Addiction

My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost two years and I have know about his addiction to porn and masturbation for about a year and a half. He is a very Godly man and wants so much to stop struggling with this. When he “messes up” he will tell me, but every time he does I feel so angry and scared. I feel like I want to talk to someone about it, but I don’t want everyone to know about his secret. How do I get help to work through this issue without sacrificing his trust? I feel so isolated and alone in this struggle and I don’t think expressing all of my frustrations to my boyfriend will make much difference – especially since I don’t really know what I’m feeling about the “struggle” any more. help.

My heart goes out to you. Does your boyfriend have any male accountability in his life? You should not be his only source of accountability… if you should even be that source at all.

He needs to get his own system in place but for you a few things come to mind. Partners For Purity might be a great community for you to seek support, guidance and wisdom from other’s who have been there. I also would highly recommend the book Boundaries in Dating.

This is a start.

Best wishes

accountability partner

Hi, I have been addicted to porn for the last 2 years. I go to church a lot and confess my sins to the Lord. My spiritual life has grown a lot in the last year. He help me last year to be free from porn for 6 months then it started again, but at the beginning of this year I said to the Lord that I am going to stop this. last week I began to be tempted by the devil.The moment I don’t spent that much time with Jesus the devil comes and destroys me. I struggled with this alone since this began. Jesus said to me that I need to get an accountability partner in my life. I want to tell my dad, but don’t know how to tell him. Can you please tell me how so that I can stop this before it goes too far? When this started I did not know Jesus very well, but I know now that I need to stop this. Thank you

Having accountability is definitely the way to go. If you don’t think you can talk to your dad about this then hopefully you will talk to someone who you can trust. Someone you look up to who is strong in the Lord.

We have an entire section of resources and blogs for students. I would suggest you spend some time reading there because you will know you are not alone and you can interact with others on the site.